Sunday, August 23, 2015

Sunday Afternoon Reflections on Acceptance/Rejection 8/23/15

It's been a downright scorcher in the Valley for the last several weeks as we've been under a severe heat advisory. I'm not surprised that the heat has been turned up on me in a few areas of my life. I've had a few thoughts on the brain for at least 10-12 weeks that I was still having a little trouble wrapping my mind around fully. I think I've finally gotten through a few experiences that are finally going to allow me to make sense of everything. So basically my thoughts have been revolving around how acceptance & rejection exist in every aspect of our lives daily. Basically, I reached a point where I was starting to feel that I was experiencing a tremendous amount of personal/professional rejection. It would have been very easy to get into a funk about everything going on around me, but I transitioned into learning mode. Every experience for us is an opportunity to learn about ourselves or about others. Maybe, what was really going on was the fact that I've yet to fully realize who I am & what I should really be doing in life. I know what I'm passionate about, but I've still been hesitant about pursuing it 100%. I'm further convinced that I'm getting closer to breaking out of my cocoon to take flight as a wonderful butterfly. I just been over here marinating for a bit. Now I can tell you that my thoughts have been stuck on all things dealing with acceptance/rejection on many different levels for me personally as well as professionally. I've seriously transitioned from why not me to it's okay that they don't understand who I am. When the time is right and the opportunity presents itself, I'll be ready to embrace all that's for me. Acceptance/Rejection How often do you ask yourself why weren't you the chosen one? Did you ever stop to think that maybe you weren't chosen cause they couldn't handle all that you were? “One of the hardest things in life is watching the person you love, love someone else.” “Human beings, like plants, grow in the soil of acceptance, not in the atmosphere of rejection” John Powell How does it make you feel when you think you've been overlooked or passed over? It's okay to be disappointed, but how long do you stay there? “Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.” “It's easy to cry when you realize that everyone you love will reject you or die.” Chuck Palahniuk There will always be acceptance/rejection for you in life, but it's all about how you handle it. Did you realize that some of the most successful people of our time were rejected numerous times before their breakout moment? So rest assured that everything you're dealing with a test to ensure you're ready for all that is about to be bestowed upon you. “When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.” Peace Pilgrim “I think all great innovations are built on rejections.” Louis Ferdinand Celine Are you in an environment to hold you down through it all? Are you aware of who your confidants are? Or do you have more constituents? “A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.” “I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat.” Sylvester Stallone The more you experience, the more you begin to understand who you are. Life teaches us a lot and over time we better understand the timing of a lot of our moments of acceptance/rejection. “As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around.” Oprah Winfrey “You've got to love this business. You have to be able to take rejection.” Jessica Biel Whether you're completely accepted by the masses should never matter cause you've got to own who you are. Hold yourself accountable before the world does and you'll find that life just feels better. How many times have you felt you were hitting the wall only to find that the greatest opportunity of your life was right around the corner? “There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me... or leave me. Accept me - or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don't fit your idea of who I should be and don't try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad - you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.” Stacey Chartern There's a possibility that none of what you read resonated within your being, but there's still a small chance that one thing here touched you enough to make a small change. Here's to a great start to your week. Live life & be phenomenal.

Sunday, June 1, 2014

Saturday Night Thoughts on Having the Discipline to be Brilliant at the Basics 5/31/14

It's not quite summer yet, and it already feels like it's going to be quite a hot one in the Valley of the Sun. Although, it was a scorcher, it didn't stop it from being a great Saturday. I woke up feeling some type of way about a few things as a ton of things floated around my mind. I would say that it makes perfect sense at this time, because I have definitely been slacking in a few areas. Let's just say, I've been inspired again to sit down and put a few thoughts on paper. Seems as though I haven't actually written anything since last year, and I think it has a lot to do with where I am right now. Everything pretty much was put in perspective after hearing on more than one ocassion where are your thoughts and why haven't you written anything recently? The longer I live, the better I understand how important it is to have an amazing support system. I am beyond blessed ‎in who I have decided to surround myself with and who has decided that I should be surround by them. Now that I've gotten that off my chest, maybe I should share what's been on my mind. It's funny how the simplest things make the most sense, but we often forget about how important being brilliant at the basics is. I was having a conversation yesterday with DNICE yesterday about discipline and it really had me thinking. What does discipline mean to you? How disciplined are you? "Lack of discipline leads to frustration and self-loathing" Marie Chapian ‎"We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons." Jim Rohn ‎ So as I started to think about discipline, I began to wonder myself about how disciplined I was. I realized that I have not been disciplined enough to the things that will allow me to fulfill my purpose in life. What is it that causes us to lose our discipline? How do retrain ourselves to be disciplined? "It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled uss to follow through." Zig Ziglar "Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals." ‎So now as my thoughts continue to form about being disciplined, seeing how it influences your successes personally and professionally, I think I've got the blueprint to life. What are we showing discipline to? Why are we disciplined to do some things and not others? What are the things that we should be the most disciplined at? "Discipline is remembering what you want." David Campbell "If in our daily life we can smile, if we can be peaceful and happy, not only we, but everyone will profit from it. This is the most basic kind of peace work." As simple as this statement may be it seems like it is a hard thing for us to do; KISS method "Keep it simple stupid!" Simplicity at it's finest and it's really hard to believe at times how simple life really can be if we allow it to be. Some of the most important lessons we could learn in life, we learned as children, but we aren't disciplined to practice those lessons all the time. The Golden Rule or "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you," should be a part of our daily lives. Are you disciplined enou‎gh to follow the Golden Rule? "In your relationships with others, remember the basic and critically important rule. If you want to be loved, be lovable." "Consideration for others is the basic of a good life, a good society." Confucius ‎I know for a fact that if I can get back to being brilliant at the basics I can see positive changes in my personal and professional life. I'm not going to say I am outright terrible, but I do believe if I get back to the core of what has made me who I am, then I'm on the right track. In terms of support system and our relationships, the people that care about us the most, won't hesitate to let us know that we aren't on our A game. How are you keeping yourself disciplined? Are you keeping yourself in the right environment to remain disciplined? "Many of life's circumstances are created by three basic choices, the disciplines you choose to keep, the people you choose to be with; and the laws you choose to obey." Charles Millhuff "Here is the basic rule for winning success. Let's mark it in the mind and remember it. The rule is: Success depends on the support of other people. The only hurdle between you and what you want to be in is the support of other people." David Joseph Schwartz In this day and age, I do believe that our legacies will be defined according to the discipline we will be able to instill in our youth. We have to do a better job of teaching them to be brilliant at the basics and everything falls in line. Let us challenge the future leaders of tomorrow to think about‎ about where they want to be and have the discipline to get them there. Well maybe first, we have to be disciplined enough to use our own talents wisely. "Discipline is the refining fire by which talent becomes ability." Roy Smith "One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little. They act impulsively without thinking. I always try to think before I talk." Margaret Chase Smith ‎Let today be the day that you are inspired to do something different than you did yesterday. Live life and be phenomenal in all you do.

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Saturday Evening Thoughts on the Intention of Your Actions 09/28/13

‎Fall has arrived and we can all welcome the temperature change that this season brings. In just a matter of months 2013 will be history and I can only ask where did the year go. It seems like just yesterday, that we were embracing the new year. If you know me you know that it really doesn't take much for my mind to get to racing. For the last couple of days there have been some conversations and some things I've experienced that really made me say Hmmmmm. Somehow or another, actions and intentions have stuck in my head as I have developed some very deep thoughts on the subject. Take some time and think about this, "Why is it that you do what you do?" How do people view your intentions? How do people view your actions? Do you know how you lose your audience when your intentions and actions differ? “Good intentions are at least, the seed of good actions; and every one ought to sow them, and leave It to the soil and the seasons whether He or any other gather they fruit” William Temple “The more you are willing to accept responsibility for your actions, the more credibility you will have." Brian Koslow “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." Maya Angelou “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny." What is it that you said that you were going do but haven't yet? The intentions are there, but what is keeping you from taking action? Do you believe your intentions are self-serving? Or are they to serve others? “For an athlete to function properly, he must be intent. There has to be a definite purpose and goal if you are to progress. If you are not intent about what you are doing, you aren't able to resist the temptation to do something else that might be more fun at the moment." John Wooden “I never worry about action, but only about inaction." Winston Churchill “Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one's thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world." Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe Maybe you are like myself and life has taught you to be a little skeptical about people based on your past experiences. Am I the only one that has thoughts in the back of their mind when the phone rings or someone randomly stops in to say hello? I am really starting to think that I am not the only person that questions every little thing that people do as so many people are so self serving that it makes you want to distance yourself from them. Don't get me wrong, I do understand that you have to be self serving to a point because at the end of the day you have to lookout for yourself. “The man who is intent on making the most of his opportunities is too busy to bother about luck.” B. C. Forbes “Before speaking, consider the interpretation of your words as well as their intent.” Andrew Alden “A truth that's told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent." William Blake Believe it or not based on your purpose in life you can still be self serving and impact other people's lives positively. Self serving isn't always a bad thing as think of this example of your purpose in life is helping others and you create opportunities to give back and do things that make you feel good. When it's all said and done no person will be judged on his intentions, but our actions will be how we will be remembered. How does life look for you when your intentions and actions correspond with one another? How does life look for others when your intentions and actions match? “Let your intentions be good - embodied in good thoughts, cheerful words, and unselfish deeds - and the world will be to you a bright and happy place in which to work and play and serve" Grenville Kleiser “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me.” Erma Bombeck Look around and see who you have surrounded yourself with. Does your circle reflect the life that you are ready live? Are the people you have around you the right ones to check your intentions? Your actions?? “Sometimes the people whom we've know for only a short amount of time have a bigger impact on us than those we've known forever." “A gentleman is one who never hurts anyone's feelings unintentionally." Oscar Wilde ‎This is the only life that you will ever be given, so go out and live it the best way you know how. Take chances and live with no regrets as it is your time as it always has been. Live life, be phenomenal, and remember #positivemovementsforwardalways. And I ask you again, "Why is it that you do what you do?" Maybe your answer is a little clearer now.

Sunday, September 29, 2013

Thursday Morning Thoughts on Being at the Intersection of Anticipation, Preparation, and Determination 9/19/13

‎So this weekend was pretty amazing as this is truly one of my favorite times of the year. Cooler temperatures are ahead as well as football is starting to heat up. I can honestly say that both my Crimson Tide and Arizona Cardinals definitely gave me a reason to smile as they both were victorious. If you know anything about me there's nothing that I look forward to more than football season and football food. You should have known that I was going to work food in there one way or another. It's by no surprise that hearing all the hype and commentary before, during, and after the highly anticipated Alabama Vs Texas A&M football game put a few thoughts in my mind that had me in deep thought for awhile. Not really sure if I have connected all the pieces in my life right now that lead me to think about life at the intersection of anticipation, preparation, and determination. What are you anticipating? What are you prepared for? Why are you determined? “Such is the state of life, that none are happy but by the anticipation of change: the change itself is nothing; when we have made it, the next wish is to change again. The world is not yet exhausted; let me see something tomorrow which I never saw be" Samuel Johnson “For every minute spent in organizing, an hour is earned.” “Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe." Gail Devers Believe it or not the concepts are probably intertwined in many aspects of our lives if we take a step back and look at things. Was it worth the anticipation? Were you prepared for it? How determined were you to see things through? “Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race" Calvin Coolidge “Luck is a crossroad where preparation and opportunity meet” “Our and our behaviour are always in anticipation of a response. It is therefore fear-based." Deepak Chopra Let's be honest, we all have the same amount of time in any given day, but how are you using your time? What is it that separates you from some of the most successful people in the world? Were they more prepared? “Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.” “If your're not practicing, somebody else is, somewhere, and he'll be ready to take your job."Brooks Robinson “An intense anticipation itself transforms possibility into reality; our desires being often but precursors of the things which we are capable of performing." Samuel Smiles Sometimes in life I have found that we have anticipated things that we may have been ill prepared for, but for one reason or another we remained determined to have those things. Maybe it worked out or maybe it didn't, but you can't say that there wasn't an opportunity to experience something that you could learn from. Do you ever think that maybe we focus so much on what didn't happen that we lose sight of what actually did? What does being at the intersection of anticipation, preparation, and determination mean to now? What have you realized or what are you starting to realize? “Wisdom consists of the anticipation of consequences." Norman Cousins “You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else." Albert Einstein “Success always comes when preparation meets opportunity." Henry Hartman Stop and take a moment to appreciate this moment for what it actually is, cause no matter how bad you want to see it again you won't. Live life and enjoy every moment. I can't tell you enough to enjoy time you have with your family, friends, and those you care about as life is truly too short. I say this as I ask you to send prayers up for my friend Tammy and her family with the recent passing of her sister.

Saturday Evening Thoughts on the Intersection of Your Wants, Your Needs, and Your Willingness 9/7/13

The week of Labor Day always ends up being one of the longest shortest weeks of the year as we begin the transition from summer to fall. It's yet another great time to put things in perspective as we prepare to end the 3rd quarter of the year and prepare for the last push of 2014. I don't know about you, but I have to ask the question about where has the year gone. Regardless, of where it has gone I can tell you that I am still more than ready to enjoy the balance of 2013. Doesn't really take much these days to get my mind racing in a few directions and maybe I'm about to drop something that really makes you think. Have you ever thought about where you are this very minute? Do you even realize that maybe 20 years ago you made some decisions that ultimately contributed to arriving at this very place? Digest that for a minute and just think about what has transpired over the course of your life. ‎What is it that you want? In your personal life? In your career? Within your family? “What most people need to learn in life is how to love people and use things instead of using people and loving things.” “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” Albert Einstein “Courage is simply the willingness to be afraid and act anyway.” Dr. Robert Anthony What is it that you need? Personally? Professionally? Spiritually? Within your family? Financially? “When we think of failure; Failure will be ours. If we remain undecided; Nothing will ever change. All we need to do is want to achieve something great and then simply to do it. Never think of failure For what we think, will come about.” Maharishi Mahesh “I don't want to earn my living; I want to live.” Oscar Wilde “Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” Wayne Dyer What are you unwilling to do? What are you willing to do?‎ What do you wish that you were willing to do, but for one reason or another aren't able to? What's stopping you? “Any so-called material thing that you want is merely a symbol: you want it not for itself, but because it will content your spirit for the moment.” Mark Twain “You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need” Rolling Stones “The gift of friendship... a willingness to listen... a pair of helping hands... a whisper from the heart. That someone cares and understands.” Is there somewhere that you would like to be? Then why not get there?? Life is all about taking advantage of moments and the opportunities that are there for you. It's up to you to make the decision that you will embrace what's in front of you. Live a life ‎that is free of regret and no wondering 20 years from now what if or what could have been. It has always been your choice and only yours to live a phenomenal life, so what’s really stopping you. Enjoy the things that you love, love the people you enjoy, and do it all with a smile on your face. Positive thoughts breed positive actions and #positivemovementsforward will take you where you need to be. When you arrive at the intersection of your wants, your needs, and your willingness, you should be prepared to get to the next level. “What we call the secret of happiness is no more a secret than our willingness to choose life.” Leo Buscaglia

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Thursday Night Thoughts on Living in this Moment 08/22/13 Woke up this past Saturday morning and did what I needed to do in order to be strong for the people that needed me. This was definitely a Saturday filled with an abundance of love and hope as we attended the Homegoing Celebration for my Aunt Gail. I was moved to tears several times, and they weren't tears of sadness, but tears of joy that I was able to spend a part of my life with someone who was so loved. I can honestly say that I was blessed to call her my aunt. Hearing from her church members, former classmates, friends, and co-workers was just a reminder of the impact that her life had on others. I was touched by the words and also the act of kindness from the Lanier High School Class of 1970 who honored my aunt with a resolution as at least 20 of her classmates were present. After hearing reflections about my aunt and words from the pulpit, there were some things that stuck with me and got my thoughts going. 1). So what do you do when the thing that you fear most happens? Often times we have fear about certain things for one reason or another, but are we prepared after the thing we fear happens? Was the fear because we are unsure of how we should or will proceed? Our faith should provide us the necessary strength to embrace things and move forward. We can't forget that He wouldn't put more on us than we could bear. “Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” Fulton Oursler “Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.” 2) In times of loss and sadness, where is your faith? This should be the time when we have the strongest faith, but often times we don't. 3) What a man says is not what he/she is measured by, but the fruits that they bear. This statement and ensuing words really had me in deep thought reflecting upon my own life. What type of fruit am I bearing? Good fruit? Bad fruit? How will I be remembered when the breath of life is gone from my body? “Remember, people will judge you by your actions, not your intentions. You may have a heart of gold -- but so does a hard-boiled egg.” “You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.” James D Miles “I admire men of character, and I judge character not by how men deal with their superiors, but mostly how they deal with their subordinates, and that, to me, is where you find out what the character of a man is” Gen. H. Norman Schwartzkopf 4) What does friendship mean to you? I ask this question as one of my aunt's closest friends got up to speak about her and their friendship over the years. Thinking in this day and age that some often lose sight of how important friendships are to carrying us through the ups and downs of life. I know that for me I truly care a lot about those that I have chosen to call friend. Over the several weeks, I have been reminded about who my friends are and that they truly are there for me and my family. Constantly encouraged and supported through it all I know that my friends are a reflection of me. “A true friend is one who knows all about you and likes you anyway.” Christi Mary Warner “A friend is someone who helps you up when you're down, and if they can't, they lay down beside you and listen.” “Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.” Albert Camus With every second that we live, we are reminded about how we should enjoy every moment as we are not guaranteed the next. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed with those that you care about and love. I challenge you to live the phenomenal life that was destined for you. Are you up for it? Remember positive thoughts breed positive actions and keeping #positivemovementsforward at the forefront of every thing that you do will take you to the next level in many areas of your life.

Monday, August 12, 2013

Sunday Night Thoughts on Recognizing Why its Perfect for You 08/11/13

On the tail end of another weekend and preparing to embrace another week. The weather wasn't as bad as it normally was here in the Valley and I almost enjoyed it, but my mind was elsewhere. When life happens it does and there's nothing you can do but roll with it. At any given moment you can choose to be an optimist or a pessimist as those are really your two only choices when dealing with anything. Even prior to Friday, there were quite a few thoughts floating around my head about a lot of things but I reeled them in a little as the word/concept of perfect stuck in my head. Tell me what you know about perfection. What does it mean to be perfect? What does perfect mean to you? Let me tell you what I was thinking initially based on conversations I have had with people about the perfect man/woman. Honestly, there is no such thing as a perfect person as we all have imperfections. As we learn about the imperfections in ourselves and in others it is possible to find a man/woman that is the perfect complement to the person that we are. If we are mature enough in the mind to see that we have already built a solid foundation to a successful relationship. “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly” Sam Keen “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” Tom Robbins I often hear people talk about doing something when things are right or the situation is perfect. That time is not in the future, but is in the very moment that the opportunity presents itself to think about making a move. Time waits for no man, and tomorrow is not promised so why is it that we don't believe that things aren't perfect in this moment? How much better can things get? Right now, you are alive, you are breathing, with sound mind and body, so why not take action to put you closer to where you want to be. There's no more perfect a moment than right now, because believe or not things couldn't be more perfect. “When you realize how perfect everything is you will tilt your head back and laugh at the sky” Buddha “Live life fully while you're here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You're going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don't try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.” Anthony Robbins Just as we are all unique in our own ways, our perspectives afford us an opportunity to see what is perfect in different ways. What are some things that you can think of that we all see as perfect no matter what? “A hug is the perfect gift; one size fits all, and nobody minds if you exchange it.” What about you seems to be perfect? If there is one thing that should be perfect, it should be your faith. Doesn't matter what you have faith in, but that should be one area that you have a belief that your faith in whatever is perfect. “The reason birds can fly and we can't is simply that they have perfect faith, for to have faith is to have wings” James Matthew Barrie My thoughts were probably all across the board, but surely there was something here that may have made you take a deeper look at something you have experienced, are experiencing, or plan to experience in the future. My life isn't perfect and surely a large majority of my decisions haven't been perfect, but they have been perfect for the life that I am destined to live. As you move forward in this new week and prepare to get closer to living the life that is perfect for you and your family, I ask that you reach out to your family, friends, and loved ones as often as you can. No man or woman knows the day nor the hour when you won't be able to pick up the phone, send a text, or reach out to let someone know you care. I ask a small favor that you send up prayers for my family and extended family as we deal with the terminal illness of a loved one. Next couple of days are going to be rough and we are going to need the strength. Only thing that I know for certain right now that every thing that you want or need can be perfect for you if you: Live life, Be phenomenal, and remember #Positivemovementsforward always. “Just because nobody complains doesn't mean all parachutes are perfect.” Benny Hill “''Now'' is the operative word. Everything you put in your way is just a method of putting off the hour when you could actually be doing your dream. You don't need endless time and perfect conditions. Do it now. Do it today. Do it for twenty minutes and watch your heart start beating.” Barbara Sher