Thursday, October 8, 2009

Thursday Evening Thoughts

Seems like another week has flown by as tomorrow morning it will be Friday and the week is essentially over. As I look at the past week, I can pose the question to myself asking about my accomplishments for the week and attempt to come up with an answer that's satisfying to me.

There was a point in time that I would solely look at my accomplishments in terms of things that were easily defined and measurable. Lately it seems like I am defining my successes and failures by recognizing if I have made a difference in the life of another. Whether its at work or in my personal life there isn't a moment that passes by that I don't have an opportunity to make a difference in the life of someone. I have clearly identified my role and I am trying to add value by creating an infectious movement that catches on to bring this world we live in back into balance.

We all have choices in life and we can easily choose to make a difference or not. A lot of people often think you have to be Oprah or a well known person who does something that's on the news to make a difference. It isn't always going to be some amazing discovery that makes a difference, because sometimes its just a smile to a complete stranger that made a difference to another.

What if I told you that you could change the world? Would you believe me? Would you be willing to at least give it a try?

No matter where your journey on the road of life takes you on a daily basis you do have an opportunity to make a difference. The million dollar question here is, "Do you care to make a difference?"

Just speaking from my experiences, I want to make a difference and I will attempt to do it ONE E-MAIL AT A TIME.

“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: Those who are afraid to try themselves, and those who are afraid that you will succeed.”

-Ray Gofort

“There are only about a half dozen things that make 80% of the difference in any area of our lives.”

-Jim Rohn

“People don't understand that not only can they make a difference, it's their responsibility to do so”

-Florence Robinson

“Vision without action is a dream. Action without vision is simply passing the time. Action with Vision is making a positive difference.”

-Joel Barker

“To recognize opportunity is the difference between success and failure”

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Thoughts on Hump Day 10/07/09

It's Wednesday and that infamous "GET OVER THE HUMP DAY" and I am excited about what the day may bring. After a great nights sleep, I rose early with a fresh perspective on how to make today better than yesterday.

When the sun goes down on most days and we head into the evening, hopefully we are closing the book on today and preparing for tomorrow. Whether its 4 hours or 8 hours a nites rest, gives us the opportunity to re-energize and be at our best for the next day.

Just like our body needs to be refreshed on a daily basis, our lives, relationships, and thoughts, often times need to be refreshed. Refreshing things in your life can often times lead to new perspectives and experiences. Never be afraid to push the reset button and start fresh on anything.

“Rest when you're weary. Refresh and renew yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit. Then get back to work.”

-Ralph Marston

“The best way to keep good acts in memory is to refresh them with new.”

-Cato the Elder

“Affliction comes to all not to make us sad, but sober; not to make us sorry, but wise; not to make us despondent, but its darkness to refresh us, as the night refreshes the day; not to impoverish, but to enrich us, as the plow enriches the field; to”

-Henry Ward Beecher

“To look backward for a while is to refresh the eye, to restore it, and to render it the more fit for its prime function of looking forward”

-Margaret Fairless Barber

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Tuesday Night Thoughts 10/06/09

I am sitting here at the computer watching the clock as I prepare to play Madden '10 online with a dear friend of mine in Alabama. I must say you really have to appreciate technology and the things that it allows us to do.

As I write about anything that inspires me, I have created a situation that my friends feel very comfortable talking to me about anything. While I am preparing to have a lil fun, I can't help but reflect on several conversations that have taken place with a couple of my friends over the last couple of days. It seems like the flavor of the month happens to be not being valued for who you are or appreciated in your relationships. As I started to think about it, I think it all starts with what a person cherishes. If we can begin to understand the things that are important to people we can begin to know whether not we will be questioning intentions later on.

The word treasure began floating around my head, see the definition below.

treas·ure n. 1. Accumulated or stored wealth in the form of money, jewels, or other valuables. 2. Valuable or precious possessions of any kind. 3. One considered especially precious or valuable. tr.v. treas·ured, treas·ur·ing, treas·ures 1. To keep or regard as precious; value highly. 2. To accumulate and store away, as for future use.

After reading this definition several times and thinking about how the word is used I began to have a few thoughts about relationships.

Are our relationships affected by what we treasure?

Are we often treasuring the wrong things? wrong people?

Have you ever hidden a treasure only to find out it was gone when you went back to retrieve it?

Have you ever found a treasure that was deemed to be not worth much to someone with no vision?

What do you honestly treasure?

These are good questions to ask of ourselves as we move forward to make tomorrow better than today. Its always good to remember that some things you treasure are nothing more than fool's gold.

“If out of all mankind one finds a single friend, he has found something more precious than any treasure, since there is nothing in the world so valuable that it can be compared to a real friend.”

-Andreas Capellanus

“Faithful friends are gifts from heaven: Whoever finds one has found a treasure.”

“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening, I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.”

-Walter Anderson

“Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.”

-Anthony J. D'Angelo

“Friendship is a priceless treasure never to be bought or sold - it can only be cherished.”

“Whatever we treasure for ourselves separates us from others; our possessions are our limitations.”

-Rabindranath Tagore

Monday, October 5, 2009

Sunday Reflections Carried Over

Another weekend has come to a close and I can say that I fully enjoyed every minute of it. There were a a lot of fun moments this weekend, and yet there were still other moments that challenged me as a person. Often times my weekend peaks on Sunday as most of my thoughts over the entire weekend come to a head and then I am left with a revelation.

Yesterday, while I was attending church it wasn't the message I received during the service that hit home with me, rather the conversations that took place during Sunday School and after. During Sunday School, the testimony of a young man named Jimmy Lewis was given by his mother. Let me give you a little background about Jimmy and his mother so you can understand how special this young man is. On August 29, 2005 Jimmy and his mother along with other family members were residents of New Orleans when Hurricane Katrina roared a shore. After surviving Hurricane Katrina, Jimmy and his mother relocated to Phoenix, Arizona and essentially started their life over. New school and new environment Jimmy pressed on and ended up becoming an All State football player for Peoria Centennial winning multiple state championships while he was in school.

As I have learned more about Jimmy over the last year, I can clearly see that God is working miracles in his life. Yesterday, while his mother was given his latest testimony about him attending Hargrave Military Academy did tears begin to form in my eyes as I was in awe at the power of God. After graduating from high school, Jimmy had several scholarship offers to play football, but a vision and something on his heart had him directed to attend the Hargrave Military Academy. Jimmy did not have a scholarship to assist him at Hargrave Military Academy to assist with the $29,000 annual tuition. Prior to attending Jimmy and his mother thought that would be able to put together some of the funds and rely on other scholarship sources to assist. All the way up until the day Jimmy was scheduled to make a move to Hargrave Military Academy nothing was lining up and all financial means of assistance appeared to fall through.

Jimmy remained steadfast in his faith knowing that God had a plan for him and he was destined to attend the Hargrave Military Academy and play football. Currently enrolled at the Hargrave Military Academy, Jimmy's full tuition has not been paid but the school has welcomed him with open arms. There is a calling on Jimmy's life and God is using him to do great things. While Jimmy has been in school he has done an amazing job being himself and showing others the God in him. Jimmy's current roommate is an atheist and he has begun to see the God in Jimmy by the way he lives.

I know in my heart that the world will begin to see more of Jimmy on the weekend. He will be on someones football field playing on Saturday for a couple of years and then playing on Sunday. God has a plan for this young man and will use him always because of his unwavering faith.

I could not resist sharing this story, as I am continually impressed by this young man. I would like to think that I was teaching him something, but he is teaching me more than he could ever imagine. Never underestimate the power of God working miracles in your life. On a daily basis we are being prepared to be where God wants us to be. Things that occur in your life may not make sense to you or appear to not be working in accordance with your plan. Just remember that its always been God's plan for our lives and not our own. If we aren't already there, we are moving closer and closer to where we are destined to be based on God's plan.

Now is the time to stop being scared and have the faith to let him lead you to where you need to be.

“Dreams are like stars...you may never touch them, but if you follow them they will lead you to your destiny.”

“I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be.”

-Douglas Adams

“I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.”

-Rita Mero

“I can't control my destiny, I trust my soul, my only goal is just to be. There's only now, there's only here. Give in to love or live in fear. No other path, no other way. No day but today.”

-Jonathan Larson

“It's choice--not chance--that determines your destiny.”

-Jean Nidetch

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Saturday Evening Thoughts

I must say that I had a very relaxing day off yesterday, but I still engaged in activities that are feeding my personal growth. As you know I watch a lot of sports and I happened to pay close attention to a couple of sports stories that made the headlines yesterday.

The selection of Brazil to host the 2016 Summer Olympic Games was not a surprise to me. However, what did surprise me were the conversations and looks of dejection of the citizens of Chicago. This was not the successful picture that was envisioned by the city of Chicago and President Obama as he showed his support for the selection as well. I also point you to the news reports that show that Tiger Woods has become the first Billion Dollar athlete.

I highlight these two examples as they show the two sides of success. In the Olympic example Chicago wasn't successful in its bid to host, and definitely has some work to done in order to become a strong contender in future years. Tiger Woods has demonstrated since he entered the golfing world his love for the game and his success in the sport tells me a lot.

In my opinion, anyone can be successful in anything that choose to be. Success isn't a given and it doesn't come easy. I think there is a recipe for it and anyone can cook it up to be a delightful dish. I have a few simple ingredients that you can start with, but feel free to jazz it up as necessary. My recipe for success includes a good mix of preparation, determination, self evaluation, and timing.

"When you're on the road to success the most important step is always the next one. Never stop trying!"

"I've failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed"

-Michael Jordan

Friday, October 2, 2009

Thursday Late Night Thoughts 10/01/09

Over the course of my life I learned a few things and you can't question the things that God does in your life. Some of those things may seem insignificant to you at the time, but often times it carries a bigger meaning. If you are like me, you are starting to wonder where my inspiration came from today or what could possibly have on my brain right now.

So let me tell you a little bit about my day and then you can see where I am headed. Seemed like a normal day for me as I got dressed and went to work. I really didn't think a whole lot about my wardrobe decisions today, but it was pointed out to me that I was comfortable in my manhood by wearing a Pink Polo shirt. It was at that moment that I realized that it was October 1 and the first day of Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

I first learned about breast cancer at the age of 8, when my great grandmother was diagnosed and she beat it. Also, in the last several years one my very close friends mother overcame her battle with breast cancer as well. Breast Cancer Awareness Month holds a special place in my heart based on people close to me that were affected. I believe in supporting the push for cancer research and try and do my best to support. As I think about my feelings about supporting Breast Cancer Awareness Month, it made me think about my relationships with the individuals that have gone through it.

Even as an 8 year old, I can remember my great grandmother recuperating in the front room of my grandmother's home and going into check on her. All I knew at that time was that my great grandmother was lying the bed and she was smiling when she saw me. As I became older and my friends mother was overcoming her battle, I remember picking up the phone in Arizona and calling back to Mississippi checking in with her and her family members to see how she was doing.

My thoughts all of sudden began to be centered around support and what does it actually mean. I am sure we all have a lot of contacts in our blackberry's, palms, and outlook contact folders.

How many of those people are there for you when you don't even ask? How many of those same people become aware of what's going on in your life and pray for you when you aren't even asking them to?

Do you have the right support system based on where you are destined to be in life?

How are you supporting others?

“A friend is the one who comes in when the whole world has gone out.”

-Grace Pulpit

“Four things support the world: the learning of the wise, the justice of the great, the prayers of the good, and the valor of the brave ”

-Muhammad

“Family... a group experience of love and support.”

-Marianne Williamson

“If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't follow. I'd be at the bottom to catch them when they fall.”

“False friendship, like the ivy, decays and ruins the walls it embraces; but true friendship gives new life and animation to the object it supports”

-Richard Burton

Wednesday Night Thoughts 09/30/09

On a Wednesday night, I should sitting here watching SportsCenter or House of Payne on TBS, but I am sitting here at the computer reflecting on my night. It was another day at the factory for me, but it seemed just a tad different than most. In addition to normal work, I actually spent part of the day doing my semi annual performance review. These are often times very humbling discussions regardless of how good you feel that you things at your job. Based on that experience I started thinking about the concept of humility and keeping my mind focused.

Lately, it seems that everything that I do is related in some form or fashion. Yesterday, I found myself discussing appreciation and I left some thoughts unfinished or I would still be writing today. I was reading the sports section of the USA Today and it was referencing two athletes in an editorial who choose to sit out after they were drafted by professional baseball and professional football teams. Its amazing that these individuals felt that what they were being offered financially was not sufficient based on what they and their agents felt they were worth. Where is the appreciation of fact that you are in select few that have the skills/abilities to play something you love on the highest level there is. If these individuals don't change their mindset, there are some very humbling experiences coming down the pike.

I must say that it is a refreshing feeling when you see an athlete that embraces that he is just a person who happens to get paid to do something he loves. I say this as I pay a compliment to a very humble professional athlete that I have had the opportunity to meet twice. I bumped into Calais Campbell, a 2ND year Defensive Lineman with the Arizona Cardinals, for the 2ND time in the last year and in my opinion he is a class act. We spoke and during the conversation he remembered the first time we met and it said a lot to me about the kind of person he is. Our conversation was brief and just a regular conversation between two people. In both of my conversations with him, this individual appeared to be very humble and it told the me the story of who he was.

We all have the choice to be humble or be humbled by our experiences. Often times we choose the latter and are forced to learn humility. Think about the situations in your life that have that have served as your humbling experiences. Regardless of where you are in life you will always have the choice of being humble or being humbled, so choose wisely.

“Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.”

-John Wooden

“A person can achieve everything by being simple and humble.”

-Rig Veda

“The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”

-Jim Rohn

“The more a person analyzes his inner self, the more insignificant he seems to himself. This is the first lesson of wisdom. Let us be humble, and we will become wise. Let us know our weakness, and it will give us power.”

-William Ellery Channing

“I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble”

-Helen Keller